Questions to ask a man when you are dating
Not all values are the same and sometimes you can have two very good people with very good values, but those values can feel at war with each other.
As I wrote in “If your core values can’t dance together, then you’ll keep tripping, falling and wondering why you can’t move together in rhythm.” For example, you could have a high value for responsibility and the person you’re dating could have a high value for risk.
Are you fitting and conforming to some abstract idea of what you think they want?
Or are they challenging you to become a better, authentic you?Not trying to change you, but trying to bring the best to the top.A spouse should be like a gold miner, going under the surface to uncover the invaluable stuff underneath.I struggle being in a job, friendship, situations, etc.where I feel like I’m having to pretend to be someone else. How this plays out in my life, especially in the aspect of career, is that I struggle doing work I don’t believe in and isn’t aligned with who I am.